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Dealing with anxiety 💕

Know that feeling of your heart beating faster in response to a stressful situation? Or perhaps, your palms get sweaty when you’re confronted with an overwhelming task or event.

That’s anxiety — our body’s natural response to stress.

Anyone who knows me or follows me on social media knows I suffer with anxiety. Over the years I have learned to live with and recognise my triggers, the things that set off my anxiety. 

If you haven’t recognized your triggers yet, here are a few common ones: your first day at a new job, meeting your partner’s family, or giving a presentation in front of a lot of people. Everyone has different triggers, and identifying them is one of the most important steps to coping with and managing anxiety attacks.

Identifying your triggers can take some time and self-reflection. In the meantime, there are things you can do to try to help calm or quiet your anxiety from taking over.

If your anxiety is sporadic and getting in the way of your focus or tasks, there are some quick natural remedies that could help you take control of the situation.

If your anxiety is focused around a situation, such as being worried about an upcoming event, you may notice the symptoms are short-lived and usually subside after the anticipated event takes place.

1. Question your thought pattern

Negative thoughts can take root in your mind and distort the severity of the situation. One way is to challenge your fears, ask if they’re true, and see where you can take back control.

2. Practice focused, deep breathing

Try breathing in for 4 counts and breathing out for 4 counts for 5 minutes total. By evening out your breath, you’ll slow your heart rate which should help calm you down.

The 4 - 7 - 8 technique is also known to help anxiety.

3. Use aromatherapy

Whether they’re in essential oil form, incense or a candle, natural scents like lavender, chamomile and sandlewood can be very soothing.

Aromatherapy is thought to help activate certain receptors in your brain, potentially easing anxiety.

4. Go for a walk or do 15 minutes of exercise 

This is one that I find has worked best for me personally. 

Sometimes, the best way to stop anxious thoughts is to walk away from the situation. Taking some time to focus on your body and not your mind may help relieve your anxiety.

Getting some quick exercise can help boost your mood and calm your mind.

5. Write down your thoughts

Writing down what’s making you anxious gets it out of your head and can make it less daunting.

These relaxation tricks are particularly helpful for those who experience anxiety sporadically. They may also work well with someone  who has generalised anxiety disorder (GAD), when they’re in a bind!

However, if you suspect you have GAD, quick coping methods shouldn’t be the only kind of treatment you employ. You’ll want to find long-term strategies to help lessen the severity of symptoms and even prevent them from happening.



If anxiety is a regular part of your life, it’s important to find treatment strategies to help you keep it in check. It might be a combination of things, like talk therapy and meditation, or it might just be a matter of cutting out or resolving your anxiety trigger.

If you’re not sure where to start, it’s always helpful to discuss options with a mental health professional who might suggest something you hadn’t thought of before

1. Identify and learn to manage your triggers

You can identify triggers on your own or with a therapist. Sometimes they can be obvious, like caffeine, drinking alcohol, or smoking. Other times they can be less obvious.

Long-term problems, such as financial or work-related situations, may take some time to figure out — is it a due date, a person, or the situation? This may take some extra support, through therapy, or with friends.

When you do figure out your trigger, you should try to limit your exposure if you can. If you can’t limit it — like if it’s due to a stressful work environment that you can’t currently change — using other coping techniques may help.


Some general triggers

  • a stressful job or work environment
  • driving or traveling
  • genetics — anxiety could run in your family
  • withdrawal from drugs or certain medications
  • side effects of certain medications
  • trauma
  • phobias, such as agoraphobia(fear of crowded or open spaces) and claustrophobia (fear of small spaces)
  • some chronic illnesses like heart disease, diabetes or asthma
  • Chronic pain
  • having another mental illness such as depression
  • caffeine 


    2. Adopt cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)

    CBT helps people learn different ways of thinking about and reacting to anxiety-causing situations. A therapist can help you develop ways to change negative thought patterns and behaviours before they spiral.

    3. Do a daily or routine meditation

    While this takes some practice to do successfully, mindful meditation when done regularly, can eventually help you train your brain to dismiss anxious thoughts when they arise.

    If sitting still and concentrating is difficult, try starting with yoga, or walking meditation. 

    4. Keep a journal

    It can be helpful to create a habit of writing down your thoughts and emotions in a journal each day. The process of writing down thoughts itself can be calming for some. 

    However, it can also help you keep track of when you experience anxiety, how it makes you feel, and what sort of things trigger it.

    5. Socialize

    Although each person is different, and some people experience social anxiety, spending time with friends and family on a regular basis may help you manage your anxiety.

    Socialization can help relieve stress, encourage feelings of laughter and togetherness, and decrease loneliness. Research Sourcehas shown that social connectedness can help you become more resilient to stress in the long run.


    6. Try supplements or change your diet

    Changing your diet or taking supplements is definitely a long-term strategy. Research shows certain supplements or nutrients can help anxiety reduction.


    7. Keep your body and mind healthy

    Exercising regularly, eating balanced meals, getting enough sleep, and staying connected to people who care about you are great ways to stave off anxiety symptoms.


    8. Ask your doctor about medications

    If your anxiety is severe enough that your mental health practitioner believes you’d benefit from medication, there are a number of directions to go, depending on your symptoms. Discuss your concerns with your doctor.

    Identifying what sort of anxiety you’re dealing with can be somewhat challenging because how one’s body reacts to perceived danger can be entirely different compared to another person.


    It’s likely you heard anxiety as a blanket term for that general feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease. It’s often a feeling in response to an upcoming event that has an uncertain outcome.

    Every person deals with it at one time or another, because it’s part of our brain’s response to a perceived danger — even if that danger isn’t real.

    That said, there are times anxiety can get serious and turn into anxiety attacks that initially feel manageable and then gradually build up over a few hours. (This is different from a panic attack, which is out of the blue and subsides.)


    Signs of an anxiety attack

    These are some of the more common mental and physical symptoms of anxiety:

    • feelings of danger, panic, or dread
    • nervousness or restlessness
    • rapid heart rate
    • sweating
    • trembling or chills
    • tiredness or weakness
    • gastrointestinal 
    • difficulty focusing
    • hyperventilating 

    It’s also possible to experience an anxiety and panic attack simultaneously. The quick coping strategies mentioned above may also help with a panic attack.

    Other mindful strategies to cope with panic attacks include focusing on an object, repeating a mantra, closing your eyes, and going to your “happy” place.


    Symptoms of a panic attack

    • fear of dying
    • feeling like you’re losing control
    • a sense of detachment
    • heart palpitations 
    • shortness of breath 
    • chest pains or tightness
    • nausea
    • feeling lightheaded or dizzy
    • numbness or tingling in your extremities
    • feeling hot or cold

    If you notice that quick tips haven’t been working, you may want to consider seeing a professional for help. Especially if you believe you have GAD and it’s interfering with routine activities and causing physical symptoms.

    A mental health professional can help with streamlining the process of identifying your triggers, maintaining long-term strategies through behavioral therapy, medications, and more.

    Anxiety may always be a part of your life, but it shouldn’t overtake your day-to-day. Even the most extreme anxiety disorders can be treated so that the symptoms aren’t overwhelming.

    Once you find what treatment works best for you, life should be a lot more enjoyable and a lot less daunting.

    Anxiety is a growing problem in modern life, and one that is still met with a lot of closed mindedness.

    Many people go undiagnosed and untreated, and if this post can help just one person manage their anxiety a little better then it was definitely worth it 💕


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Comments

Anonymous said…
Hey it's Charlene! I personally don't have anxiety but once in a while, I'll take a calming supplement. I do need to exercise more. Excellent entry this week CW!
YUMGIRL said…
Thankyou Charlene, I hope someone finds it helpful

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